Dear D

Today I want to bring up a timeless exercise called influence. Practised by mainly everyone. It is quite the subjective and self-inflicted job by the interested party. Needed to keep the make-belief strong and steady. Because when lost, u run the risk of losing your head (Marie Antoinette) or shoes (Imelda Marcos).

Another effect is the shifted view of others when influence gave colour effect to glasses or lenses for that matter. The emotional link to a sister or the sex practised with a long longed friend can make people shift in their opinion about one. Does that really matter or bother in friendships or social encounters?

My experience and therefore finding says: depending…pivoting on your values bound to that party. Usually, people and I do not say that lightly, have their scheme of values based on their station born, social-economic and religion, in that mix comes the hemisphere where located and then the natural amount of bully points u have been born with…

I mean getting bullied or alienated is not a question or sour privilege of belonging to a black race, it is a question of being different without awed upon. Like not fast, cool, common, or slim enough to fit in where u at. The fickle point of this all is, it is bloody environmental!!! Having been queen and favourite in one place they will tease and torture you for the same assets in the next town.

So how to avoid getting severed or suppressed? Blending in is seen as humble and respectful because the quote sounding like a brother instead of from another mother is still actual. Accents are linked with the geographic environment, so are habits, food, festivals etc. I am not recommending turning into a local but certainly advising to respect their heritage and values that come with.

For more inri look at the pope, he went to Irak and found a way to be buddies with the Ayatollah for several days. They both agreed about the natural necessities for all human beings, like peace, food and he added the need of practising the religion of choice…well, in this case, being able to pray to God instead of Allah. Everything was going smooth and almost sorority until he visited Ur, the place of birth of Abraham.

Muslim, Christian and Shiite all represented in highest function except the Jews. Their argument in short was too many murdered, with no structure left to represent. Hmmm, Christians went from 1.5 mils to 330 K in Irak since the Yankees barged in. So see there a great practice of negative influence!

Love, like, hate or despise but do understand that we all can comprehend and be assertive when needed and leave our influence based values at home, our emotions in check and enjoy the ride called life (for Pete sake, for the love of Fliditch, or in Gods and Allah’s name!) whatever makes you happy and comfortable.

May harmony find U,

Irena Phaedra